How You Respond to Bids

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My need for independence is such that I find my partner cloying and smothering

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I often feel like running away when my partner asks for my attention

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I find it really hard to sit and listen to my partner

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My mind wanders when they talk

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When they get overly emotional, I don't want to be with him or her

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I think that if they are feeling sad, he or she should keep it private

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I wish my partner took care of his or her own needs more and relied on me less

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When I am busy, I resent being interrupted by them

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I need my own personal space without them expecting me to take care of him or her

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I often resent being bothered by my partner when I am trying to concentrate

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I will avoid them when he or she is overly needy

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I don't usually notice what my partner is feeling

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I seem to be continually disappointing my partner

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I never seem to know what to say to them when he or she approaches me

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I have a lot of trouble emotionally supporting my partner

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I try to notice their emotional state

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I will often ask them questions about how they are

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I generally like meeting my partner's needs

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I enjoy listening to them talk

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It is important to me to be there for my partner

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I am usually responsive when they need my time and attention

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I can tell when they are upset and I respond to it

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When my partner is worried or scared I am usually comforting

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When they have suffered a setback or loss I am understanding and helpful

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When they just want to talk I am usually available

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When my partner asks for my time or attention I tend to be annoyed

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Lately I tend to feel crabby when they are near me

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I get stressed out by my partner's constant need for attention

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I often feel critical of their behaviour

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I find myself being angry when my partner wants to have long conversations

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They tend to make me impatient with him or her

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They need too much time from me

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My need for independence is such that I find my partner cloying and smothering

I often feel like running away when my partner asks for my attention

I find it really hard to sit and listen to my partner

My mind wanders when they talk

When they get overly emotional, I don't want to be with him or her

I think that if they are feeling sad, he or she should keep it private

I wish my partner took care of his or her own needs more and relied on me less

When I am busy, I resent being interrupted by them

I need my own personal space without them expecting me to take care of him or her

I often resent being bothered by my partner when I am trying to concentrate

I will avoid them when he or she is overly needy

I don't usually notice what my partner is feeling

I seem to be continually disappointing my partner

I never seem to know what to say to them when he or she approaches me

I have a lot of trouble emotionally supporting my partner

I try to notice their emotional state

I will often ask them questions about how they are

I generally like meeting my partner's needs

I enjoy listening to them talk

It is important to me to be there for my partner

I am usually responsive when they need my time and attention

I can tell when they are upset and I respond to it

When my partner is worried or scared I am usually comforting

When they have suffered a setback or loss I am understanding and helpful

When they just want to talk I am usually available

When my partner asks for my time or attention I tend to be annoyed

Lately I tend to feel crabby when they are near me

I get stressed out by my partner's constant need for attention

I often feel critical of their behaviour

I find myself being angry when my partner wants to have long conversations

They tend to make me impatient with him or her

They need too much time from me

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