The Relationship Paradigm 

Reconnect with your partner, by using this proven approach tested with hundreds of couples

The Relationship Paradigm 

Reconnect with your partner, by using this proven approach tested with hundreds of couples

Would you like to:

--> understand the real source of the problems in your relationship?
--> develop the ability to see your partners perspective when disagreeing?
--> find each other, to reconnect with the person you fell in love with?

Imagine if you could…

Talk happily for hours, just enjoying each other’s company

Plan fun nights out and holidays – that you actually look forward to

Feel nurtured and deeply cared for

Well, I’ve got some good news for you:

You’re just seconds away from all the support, helpful exercises and guidance you need to help you have a loving and fulfilling relationship.

Introducing The Relationship Paradigm... an online programme for couples who have drifted apart and who want to reconnect and rekindle the love they first had.

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Introducing The Relationship Paradigm... an online programme for couples who have drifted apart and who want to reconnect and rekindle the love they first had.

When you join The Relationship Paradigm, you get...

  • Lifetime access to our proven and highly successful Online Programme

  • Fortnightly webinars and trainings with Neil, run over 4 months. 8 x sessions in total

  • Two exclusive coaching sessions with our founder, Neil 

  • Recorded video lessons to help you learn about the key relationship paradigm elements

  • Carefully curated exercises to do on your own and with your partner 

  • Email Support to ensure you are making progress and have your questions answered

Note: We only run this programme four times a year and numbers are restricted.

Sign up for our Next Programme opens this summer.

✨ Join The Waitlist ✨ HERE ✨

The Relationship Paradigm shows the elements that Neil Wilkie knows are fundamental to a great relationship between two people.♡

These elements are interlocked: if they grow together they are much stronger, and if one is absent or weak then the relationship is less resilient.

The foundation of all of these is Trust.

If trust is complete, then it is like a clear blue sky. If trust is beginning to be doubted, then it is as if big grey storm clouds appear and they impact on all the other elements. Without trust the whole model becomes unstable and dissipates.

LEARN ABOUT THE ELEMENTS HERE

The Relationship Paradigm will help you… 

♡ Identify where your relationship needs attention
♡ Reconnect with your partner
♡ Experience the joy of your love once again
♡ Help you openly and joyfully communicate with each other

It will be your Success Path to falling in love again, and staying in love!
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The Relationship Paradigm will help you… 

♡ Identify where your relationship needs attention
♡ Reconnect with your partner
♡ Experience the joy of your love once again
♡ Help you openly and joyfully communicate with each other

It will be your Success Path to falling in love again, and staying in love!

Hundreds of Couples have Experienced the Life Changing Work of Neil Wilkie

“If we had gone to conventional counselling we would have taken a long time getting nowhere. It would have been tedious, and my husband would have felt marginalised. This has worked wonderfully well for us.”

Programme Participant

“My life and our lives are so much better for working with you. It has made such a significant difference to us. The difference between staying together and keeping our family or splitting up after we had been through some rough times. You offer a very specialised and invaluable opportunity.”

Programme Participant

Hello, I’m Neil Wilkie

I’m your guide inside The Relationship Paradigm.

When I was young no-one taught me how to have a good relationship.  It wasn’t on the curriculum at school or University. My parents were married for over 50 years and they stayed together but I’m not sure they were really happy with each other.

So how did I learn?  Initially it was by trial and error; lots and lots of errors.  I assumed that once you fell in love, that was it, you would stay in love for ever.  Well that’s what the films made me believe!

Real life is very different, it is messy, it is a bumpy road and it changes a lot. 

My first marriage ended after 3 years when my young wife had affairs with her bosses at work, and she changed jobs a lot!  My second marriage ended after 22 years when it became blindingly obvious that we were headed in totally different directions, with me having given up my business career to become a Psychotherapist. I realised our values were no longer congruent and we parted amicably.  My third marriage started wonderfully and then my wife was diagnosed with an incurable Brain Tumour and died three years later.

I am now married to Gwen, my soul mate and am very happy.  I am fully aware of what makes relationships flow and what makes them fail.  It takes a big investment of time and emotional energy. It requires each of us to be open, vulnerable and committed to it.  A great relationship is hard work, but it is the most fulfilling thing that we can have.

So, apart from trial and error; how did I learn?

I spent years studying what made the difference between success and failure, what made the difference between happiness and misery.  I learned through a huge variety of Psychotherapy training how to dig deep with clients to understand what had made them how they are, what they really wanted, and how to create positive change to get them there.

I had experienced several doses of traditional relationship counselling and realised that there could be a better way of achieving great outcomes, quickly.  I learned from the best and 12 years ago I created a very different model. Having had great results with hundreds of couples I now want to make my model available to a much wider world.

My mission is to impact and improve 10 million relationships around the world in this decade.  I hope that yours will be one of these.

I work in my private practice in Lymington, UK. Single sessions with us cost over £1200 each, are in high demand, and booked out months in advance. I wanted to create a way for couples around the world to be able to access the life changing resources of The Relationship Paradigm 

I created The Relationship Paradigm after seeing common patterns and themes working with couples. This membership gives you and your partner the ongoing support you need, with me as your guide, to work together to solve your issues once and for all.  You can regain your connection without the fighting or feeling like you are strangers.

"The face-to-face work I do with couples is immensely rewarding, and there have been many tears of happiness in witnessing the actual moment when a couple reconnect and fall in love again.

It’s not just the couple who benefit, the impact on their children, friends, families and work relationships is incalculable"

I’ve never ever felt as good as I have done in the last week. I felt really good when I first came here, and I knew we were in safe hands.

The first time we came here we learned so much. We would never ever have worked this out ourselves."

Programme Participant

“I needed this 20 years ago. This week has just been incredible it’s like a different life now. I hadn’t seen my wife naked in the last five years and intimacy was non-existent. Now things are wonderful."

Programme Participant

“We have learned a HUGE amount during our time with you – the ability to talk and actually connect with one another is something that was vitally missing from our relationship and not something that any previous counselling has ever managed to help us with."

Programme Participant

Frequently Asked Questions

When you join The Relationship Paradigm, you get...

  • Lifetime access to our proven and highly successful Online Programme

  • Fortnightly webinars and trainings with Neil, run over 4 months. 8 x sessions in total

  • Two exclusive coaching sessions with our founder, Neil 

  • Recorded video lessons to help you learn about the key relationship paradigm elements

  • Carefully curated exercises to do on your own and with your partner 

  • Email Support to ensure you are making progress and have your questions answered

Note: We only run this programme four times a year and numbers are restricted.

Sign up for our Next Programme opens this summer.

✨ Join The Waitlist ✨ HERE ✨

We want you to be one of our Success Stories!

Come and join us