Focus On What Is Good

article Mar 23, 2020

If you’re currently holed up with your partner, you may start to notice things a little bit more.
 
Everything is amplified in close quarters - their quirks and habits, the things they do that are helpful, and the things they do that irritate you.
 
In a Newsweek article, David Cates says, "Being together in a small space for a much longer period than usual under stressful conditions means more opportunities to amplify both positive and negative dynamics."
 
"My guess is that relationships with a strong foundation will survive and may even flourish, whereas those characterised by poor negotiation skills, destructive communication and lack of appreciation are more likely to buckle under the stress."
 
Make sure you’re paying attention to the things they’re doing right and the little things that make life easier or more pleasant for you.  Try and let the irritations just flow through you.  Fondness and appreciation are the bedrock of lasting love. Don’t forget to notice the good things.
 
"So, to survive and thrive during quarantine, couples should look for opportunities to show interest, find areas of agreement, express affection and appreciation and demonstrate empathy. And they need to do this during times of conflict. They should also recognise that worry, fear, stress and guilt are expected and normal reactions during quarantine and not criticise one another for expressing these feelings."
 
Be kind to each other during this time. Slow down and be compassionate.